As much as I have been looking forward to posting here, I frequently get pulled away, and probably by something other converts can identify with, to varying degrees. This past week, a very dear friend of mine who I have been to church with many times, but who has taken a different path than I have, has been questioning me in great detail about the Orthodox Church and its practices and beliefs.
He has finally backed off a little, but I have literally spent about 30 hours in the past week defending myself to this person. Really, looking back, not such a good approach and not one I’d recommend. But after so many hours, he finally has decided to put it on the back burner. He is sure that either the Church will change, or else God will move me out of it. But at the same time, he has found a few things about Orthodoxy that he actually sees value in.
As I said, my approach could have been better, and I could have saved myself a lot of stress over this. My mind keeps going back to the words of St. Silouan about this. While I did not condemn my friend’s religious beliefs and practices, I still think there is wisdom for me in the Saint’s words.
I remember a conversation he had with a certain Archimandrite who was engaged in missionary work. This Archimandrite thought highly of the Staretz and many a time went to see him during his visits to the Holy Mountain. The Staretz asked him what sort of sermons he preached to people.
The Archimandrite, who was still young and inexperienced, gesticulated with his hands and swayed his whole body, and replied excitedly, âI tell them, âYour faith is all wrong, perverted. There is nothing right, and if you donât repent, there will be no salvation for you.ââ
The Staretz heard him out, then asked, âBut please tell me, holy archmandrite, do they believe in the Lord Jesus Christ â that He is the true God?â
âYes, they do believe that.â
âAnd do they honour the Holy Mother?â
âThey honour Her, but they teach erroneous things about Her.â
âAnd what about the saints â do they acknowledge their existence?â
âYes, they do, but ever since they have severed themselves from the Church, what kind of saints could they have?â
âDo they perform services in Churches? Do they read the word of God?â
âYes, and they also have temples and services, but if you could only see how inferior their services are to ours â how cold, how soul-less they are!â
âHoly archmandrite, their souls obviously feel that they are acting correctly in believing in Christ, in honouring the Holy Mother and the saints â whom they invoke in their prayers. That is why, when you tell them that their faith is illegitimate, they will not listen to you⌠But if you told the people that they are right in believing in God, that they are right in honouring the Holy Mother and the saints, and in going to church for services and praying at home, that they are right in reading the Word of God and all the rest, except that here and there they have a few incorrect theories which should be corrected, then everything will be just fine and pleasing to God, and by the Grace of God, everyone will be savedâŚ. âGod is Loveâ, and that is why a sermon needs to always spring from love. Only then will the preacher and the listener both benefit. But if you censure them, then the souls of the people will not listen to you and no benefit will be achieved.â
— passage from Saint Silouan the Athonite